Do you feel unappreciated in your relationship? Does he send you roses when what you really want is time together? Does she give you a hug when what you really want is a home-cooked meal? The problem may not be your love but your Love Language. Find out if you and your date or mate speak the same Love Language when you take a simple Love Test and learn a few tips to improve your score.
1. What is a Love Language?
People express and experience love in different ways. In his best-selling book, The Five Love Languages (Northfield Publishing), Dr. Gary Chapman reveals five specific languages that we use to express heartfelt commitment in a relationship.
According to Dr. Chapman, the Five Languages of Love include: Quality Time, Words Of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.
2. What is your Love Language?
You will know your Love Language when you consider what makes you feel loved in a relationship. Ask yourself some questions:
Do you need to receive verbal compliments, praise, encouraging or affectionate words to feel loved?
Do you need to receive gifts in order to feel loved?
Do you need the gift of someone’s presence in your daily life to feel loved?
Do you need the comfort of physical touch to feel loved?
3. What do you complain about in your relationship?
Your complaints can reveal your preferred love language that is not being spoken by your date or mate. How can you turn a complaint into a chance for positive change?
4. Will you tell your beloved about the Love Language you speak?
What speaks volumes to you may be meaningless to your date or mate. When you tell your beloved what love language you’d like them to speak in order to make you feel loved and cherished in your relationship, they will understand your unique needs and be able to respond accordingly.
5. Do you know what Love Language your beloved speaks?
Can you guess how your beloved would respond if you asked them questions about their preferred Love Language? Why not ask them the questions so you know for sure how to speak their love language.
6. Will you express your love in the language that your beloved speaks? Will your beloved speak your love language for your well being?
If you answered a whole-hearted, YES, you will experience profound satisfaction and joy of being able to express your love and feeling truly loved in return.
Early in 2009, I will invite you and Dr. Chapman to participate in a telephone interview (known as a TelePowWow for the Tribe Of Blondes). Stay tuned!
Dedicated to your dating and relationship happiness,
Hadley
