Do you live alone? When was the last time you had a meaningful conversation with anyone? Cyberspace chats don’t count. They promote a hollow intimacy that may be a new cause of loneliness. You’re about to discover how to cure the painful symptoms of loneliness and create a healthy relationship.
What are the symptoms of loneliness?
A bleak feeling of emptiness. A lack of meaning or direction in your life. If left untreated, you may begin to feel trapped and helpless. You may blame an unfair world, a lack of money, bad karma, bad luck, or cold people who won’t reach out to you as the cause of your loneliness.
Loneliness may feel like a love test that is impossible to pass.
You do not see how there are always others who are worse off, yet successful.
You do not understand that it is not our circumstances, but our attitude that determines our destiny and our happiness. And it is always within our power to change our attitudes.
What if the symptoms of loneliness are not treated or healed?
This can lead to a chronic state of depression and inaction. Or you may choose the wrong relationship to escape the pain of loneliness, and then you wonder why this only causes you more pain. To reverse your downward spiral, you need to correct the root cause of your symptoms.
What is the root cause of loneliness?
As a thought leader of his era, Joseph Fort Newton (1880-1950) said, “People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.”
In our modern era, people may be lonely because they think they are building bridges through their cell phone and computer, but these connections are an empty illusion. Your bridges aren’t real and solid unless you connect face to face. That is a love lessons of loneliness.
What else can we learn from our loneliness?
“Loneliness is the way by which destiny endeavors to lead man to himself.” Author Herman Hesse (1877-1962) told us that the purpose of loneliness is self discovery.
I often tell my online community that pain opens the doorway to new actions that are a path out of pain.
When you feel the bleak, empty pain of loneliness, you can begin to see it as a wake up call to action. Ask yourself what new actions you can take to make solid, positive connections with people.
Is new action the cure for loneliness?
New action and new attitudes. Author Wayne Dyer says you can’t be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.
I tell my online community of single men and women how to fall in love again with yourself first, before you enter a new relationship. Healthy self love is a cure for loneliness and a love magnet for a healthy relationship.
How do you fall in love again with yourself?
Follow the 5 R’s:
Revive your dreams and take action on them every day.
Rev up your good qualities. As you strengthen your strengths, any weakness seems less important.
Recharge your health, which can take a beating during a break up or a long bout of loneliness.
Remember the love in your past and forget your sad old stories.
Remain optimistic. Expect wonderful things to happen. Be thankful for your blessings and eager to share them.
As you use the 5 R’s to fall in love again, with yourself, you will radiate a healthy self love.
Since like attracts like, you will attract someone who values and feels a healthy self love. This cure for loneliness could be the start of a healthy relationship!
I invite you to build solid bridges and connect with a community of successful singles who gather for video chats, expert advice, book discussions, social activities and travel adventures in the new Singles Club of Tribe Of Blondes. Claim your free, one-month trial membership when you click the SINGLES CLUB button on the menu at the top of this page.
I remain dedicated to your dating and relationship happiness!
Hadley
